How to Use a Dildo Solo or With a Partner

(Don’t worry, we note which ones are anal-safe below.) Want some hands-free fun? Opt for a toy with a strong suction cup, says David Khalili, LMFT, a sex and relationship therapist. Many of the standard realistic dildos on the market may be girthier or longer than you’re used to.

It’s an intimate object, and you should feel comfortable with the product and the place you buy it from. Sex shops have a bad reputation , and most people will think of creepy older men in trench coats lining the aisles. I have personally found stores are more likely to have a larger selection of niche toys and more knowledgeable staff. Many products are handmade, and you usually communicate directly with the designers.

We also deeply appreciate that some of its couples bundles are built with the awareness that not all couples are one man and one woman. Many competitors offer couple’s bundles with a woman’s toy and a man’s toy, but We-Vibe mixes it up. Lovense offers an experience you won’t find elsewhere thanks to its partnerships with two dozen popular sites for cam performers. Everything happens through the company’s VibeMate smartphone app, which is distinct from the app you use to control your own toys. Pay close attention to the term “insertable length” when you see it. Not all companies advertise the total and insertable length, but it’s an important distinction, especially when a dildo features a base or a dedicated grip.

We aim to cater to as many people as we can with our toy collections, so you’ll find lots of options for dildo newbies. If this is your first time trying this type of toy, you may want to start with small dildo toys, rather than diving straight in with giant dildos. It’s always best to take baby steps and explore your preferences first before you buy a dildo. Once you’ve mastered your first model, you can explore vibrating dildos or even double-ended ones if your partner takes an interest. Stick the toy’s suction base against a smooth, flat surface (like a shower wall) so you can access it on your own (and again, lube is your friend).

Small vibrating dildos are more suitable if you’re planning on buying a dildo for solo masturbation purposes. These dimensions will give you enough sensation while remaining comfortable to use. For anal penetration, absolute beginners might want to start with butt plugs before moving on to dildos. If you’re set on an anal dildo, we’d recommend 3.5 inches to 4 inches in insertable length Realistic Dildos, and 0.8-1 inch in diameter. It’s understandable to be apprehensive about glass toys, since breaking them is an obvious hazard—especially around your most sensitive bits. Still, Heidegger explains that glass dildos, made out of the same tempered or borosilicate glass as your toughest Pyrex dishes, are very safe to use.